I choose love over pain


Let’s love each other more….. Don’t be afraid… love can conquer it all!!!



I have to be honest with myself before I can be honest with others.  I struggle daily with weight, with finances and with loneliness.  I am ungrateful because I have so much to be thankful for and yet I choose to be sad about my luxuries.  I have food, a job, a car, a beautiful place to call home.  I have to say “thank you” and be happy.  I tell my kids that there is always someone who is in more need than us as there will always be someone with more.  What we have to do is be thankful and here I am sad because I have had too much to eat and because I live paycheck to paycheck when I have a paycheck and should be thankful for that.


I am going to live day by day and focus on the now.  Thanks for listening……..

What do we have?

Ever since I can remember I heard the phrase “You don’t know what you have until it’s gone”.  I had a problem with that then and I still do now.  Why oh why do we have to wait until we lose it to value it?  Did we not know it was valuable when we acquired it or when we started the relationship?  The answer is yes we did or we wouldn’t have invested time into it.  We eventually took it for granted and lost it.  How many of us have done so?  I know I have.  We find love and we lose it because we become complacent.  We live in a country with so much opportunity but we forget and we take it for granted.  Are we going to take the chance of one day not being able to blog about how we feel? Are we going to lose the amazing partner we share our lives with because we are used to waking up next to them in the morning?  We can’t let routine suck the freedom and value out of us.

Today let’s appreciate what we have.  we have a job? let’s do our best so that we keep it.  We have a wonderful person to share life with? let’s thank them for making a commitment and for making us happy.  We have kids? Let’s remind them that they have enriched our lives and gave us a purpose.  We have our limbs, senses, abilities to laugh, cry, think? let’s use it and make something great.  We don’t like how our country is being run? let’s tell someone and change it.

So you see, I thank every single one of you that has taken the time to read my posts and I thank you for sharing yours.  We stand together and I will never take that for granted.  Today I will let as many people I know how much I appreciate them and how much they enrich my life.  I hope you do the same.

Love..here we go again


I was asked to give my opinion on “Love” and for better or for worse, here it goes.

Let’s keep in mind that my opinion is not right or wrong it is merely my opinion based on my experiences.

It is the one of the greatest feelings, emotions and actions.  There is nothing better than to be in love.  I know it sounds cliche but in its purity nothing compares.  I don’t mean the casual dating and maybe 3 month relationship where you hardly talk, go out a couple of times and sex culminates the end of the adventure.

I am talking ladies and gentlemen about the real stuff.  I think about the old days where sex was the last bond in the relationship.  Conversing for hours creating the ultimate intimacy between two human beings. Courtship, banter, gifts, walks holding hands, the anticipation of seen each other again, that was real.  I know it is still out there and I refuse to give up on it.

Lets be real on one thing though, and ladies please don’t hate me, but our demand for equality has veered us away from real love.  We say that we want to be treated as equals but do we really? We contradict ourelves when we ask for equal salaries but yet we complain when the manly stuff does not get done around the house.  If we are so equal we must do the electrical work, plumbing and maintenance.  I am not trying to take away from all the women that do all that work but for the most part we have to be honest and decide equal all the way?

Love also entails respect, honor and commitment.  Respect is mutual and we have to remember not to treat men like our kids because they will behave as such.  Instead lets take a step back and trust and respect their decisions and the will be more willing to lend a hand.  Honor and commitment because that is the promise we made to each other and it wasn’t a temporary promise it was long term.  I guess what I am trying to say before I create more enemies (I hope not) is that love is the greatest and toughest job but if we treat each other with respect it can be a long lasting beautiful rewarding experience.