I have to be honest with myself before I can be honest with others.  I struggle daily with weight, with finances and with loneliness.  I am ungrateful because I have so much to be thankful for and yet I choose to be sad about my luxuries.  I have food, a job, a car, a beautiful place to call home.  I have to say “thank you” and be happy.  I tell my kids that there is always someone who is in more need than us as there will always be someone with more.  What we have to do is be thankful and here I am sad because I have had too much to eat and because I live paycheck to paycheck when I have a paycheck and should be thankful for that.


I am going to live day by day and focus on the now.  Thanks for listening……..


What do we have?

Ever since I can remember I heard the phrase “You don’t know what you have until it’s gone”.  I had a problem with that then and I still do now.  Why oh why do we have to wait until we lose it to value it?  Did we not know it was valuable when we acquired it or when we started the relationship?  The answer is yes we did or we wouldn’t have invested time into it.  We eventually took it for granted and lost it.  How many of us have done so?  I know I have.  We find love and we lose it because we become complacent.  We live in a country with so much opportunity but we forget and we take it for granted.  Are we going to take the chance of one day not being able to blog about how we feel? Are we going to lose the amazing partner we share our lives with because we are used to waking up next to them in the morning?  We can’t let routine suck the freedom and value out of us.

Today let’s appreciate what we have.  we have a job? let’s do our best so that we keep it.  We have a wonderful person to share life with? let’s thank them for making a commitment and for making us happy.  We have kids? Let’s remind them that they have enriched our lives and gave us a purpose.  We have our limbs, senses, abilities to laugh, cry, think? let’s use it and make something great.  We don’t like how our country is being run? let’s tell someone and change it.

So you see, I thank every single one of you that has taken the time to read my posts and I thank you for sharing yours.  We stand together and I will never take that for granted.  Today I will let as many people I know how much I appreciate them and how much they enrich my life.  I hope you do the same. we go again


I was asked to give my opinion on “Love” and for better or for worse, here it goes.

Let’s keep in mind that my opinion is not right or wrong it is merely my opinion based on my experiences.

It is the one of the greatest feelings, emotions and actions.  There is nothing better than to be in love.  I know it sounds cliche but in its purity nothing compares.  I don’t mean the casual dating and maybe 3 month relationship where you hardly talk, go out a couple of times and sex culminates the end of the adventure.

I am talking ladies and gentlemen about the real stuff.  I think about the old days where sex was the last bond in the relationship.  Conversing for hours creating the ultimate intimacy between two human beings. Courtship, banter, gifts, walks holding hands, the anticipation of seen each other again, that was real.  I know it is still out there and I refuse to give up on it.

Lets be real on one thing though, and ladies please don’t hate me, but our demand for equality has veered us away from real love.  We say that we want to be treated as equals but do we really? We contradict ourelves when we ask for equal salaries but yet we complain when the manly stuff does not get done around the house.  If we are so equal we must do the electrical work, plumbing and maintenance.  I am not trying to take away from all the women that do all that work but for the most part we have to be honest and decide equal all the way?

Love also entails respect, honor and commitment.  Respect is mutual and we have to remember not to treat men like our kids because they will behave as such.  Instead lets take a step back and trust and respect their decisions and the will be more willing to lend a hand.  Honor and commitment because that is the promise we made to each other and it wasn’t a temporary promise it was long term.  I guess what I am trying to say before I create more enemies (I hope not) is that love is the greatest and toughest job but if we treat each other with respect it can be a long lasting beautiful rewarding experience.

Hello again….. Questions

I am faced with many questions today thanks to Ms. Maya Angelou’s book “Letter To My Daughter”.  I have to say that after reading her work all my thoughts started sounding more like complaints.  Yes this country has changed drastically and it is not the same safe country it once was.  But complaining about it and not doing anything may as well be called hypocrisy.

I remember when we didn’t lock doors and we can let our children play outside with no fear.  What happened?  where did we go wrong?  I think that answer may be as simple as, we forgot to love.  We have heard numerous stories of triumphant men and women raising  their kids against many obstacles and enjoying in the victory of seeing their kids become outstanding men and women serving as doctors, lawyers, engineers, electricians etc… They acquired a skill regardless of their surrounding because their home was built on love.  Love for themselves, their parents and this country.  We also hear of children of the wealthy and celebrities who end up in jail, or on drugs.  Why because they didn’t find the love they so desperately needed.  Money and two parents at home is not a guarantee that you will be loved and that you will have all you need.  Money is not love nor are material acquisitions.


I borrowed this picture from the internet because it fits perfectly here.

Ms. Angelou also mentioned her friend Fannie Lou Hamer and her questions of forty years ago.  They are:

“What do I think of my country? What is there, which elevates my shoulders and stirs my blood when I hear the words, the United States of America: Do I praise my country enough? Do I laud my fellow Citizens enough? What is it about my country that makes me hang my head and avert my eyes when I hear the words, the United States of America, and what am I doing about it? Am I relating my disappointment to my leaders and to my fellow citizens, or am I like someone not involved, sitting high and looking low? As Americans, we should not be afraid to respond.”

So lets all do something about it.  We don’t have to donate money to be charitable.  We can share love, a kind word, a smile or a caress.  Lets do our best to be full of love and kindness.  Love can conquer so many things.

If we don’t agree with the way our senators, governors, mayors and president are running our country, lets tell them.  Stop their corruption and special interests by not re-electing them and giving someone else a chance.  They should be submitted to the same rule in which no-one serves more than two consecutive terms.

Lets get our America back.  Yes we can!!!!!